If venting helps you, it’s an important tool. But slow yourself down and think carefully before you let loose in a text, email, message, or social media post [or even saying anything at all, even in person]. If you’re determined to respond in [person or] electronically, wait a couple of hours, or even better, a day or week. Ideally, in that time you can treat yourself to rewarding experiences (a walk, dance class, time with a book, playing with a child) and the trigger to your anger may seem much less important. If it’s clearly important, think about actions you can take. Public venting is rarely your only option. And yes, a text or DM is public. Your receiver can send it to someone else.